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Roy J. Buehrle, DDS

December 3, 2019 | 12 comments

Roy J Buehrle, 95, of La Crosse WI passed away on Friday November 29th 2019 surrounded by family.  Roy was born March 15th 1924 in St Louis MO to Roy John & Lucille(Cash) Buehrle.  He married Wanda Olson in Chillicothe MO on Oct 30th, 1944. They later divorced. On Sep 6th 1969 Roy married Joan Hengel at Christ Episcopal Church in La Crosse WI.

Roy served in the Navy aboard the USS Algorab and USS Wautauga in WWII and was honorably discharged on 3-16-1946.  He then attended dental school at Washington University in St Louis, graduating in 1950.  Roy and his family moved to La Crosse WI where he established his dental practice at Grandview Hospital. In 1966 Roy and his close friend & colleague Bill Lippstreu built the Southeast Dental Arts professional building on State Road.  Roy continued to practice dentistry at this location until 1986. He greatly enjoyed the privilege of serving multiple generations of families.  Roy was grateful that he was able to make home visits to a patient that was homebound and was always willing to serve patients with an emergency outside of regular working hours.  He felt fortunate to practice in an era when practice decisions were made by patients and their dental providers, rather than outside parties. Roy had numerous excellent dental assistants and hygienists and remained in contact with several of them for more than 60 years.  Two of Roy’s assistants became well-loved members of our family.  Linda married son Chip in 1973 and Kris married brother-in-law Nic Hengel in 1974.

Roy’s annual fishing trips to Canada with his boys, spanning over 50 years, were among his most precious memories.  Good friends Don and Chris Comin earned honorary membership in the “Buehrle boys” group over the past two decades.  Roy also enjoyed annual trips “out West” in Montana hunting whitetail deer with his Iowa grocer buddies.  Other notable activities included being involved in the local and state dental society and serving as president of Delta Dental of Wisconsin in 1976.  Roy was involved in the Boy Scouts, Lions Club and the Hines VA Blind Center Veterans Association.  He was appointed by the Governor to serve on the Wisconsin Council for People with Disabilities and served on several state committees advocating for services for individuals with special needs.  In the 1990s Roy started a support group, the VIPs, for local residents with visual impairments.

Roy always had an interest in construction, technology and computers.  In fact, he built his first home on Hoeschler Drive with the assistance of other medical professionals. He took numerous drafting courses at WWTC in order to design his dream home in Bridal Coulee.  This time he hired a construction professional, Joe Doucet, to build the home.  Having learned “all there is to know” about construction from Joe, and having forgotten the lessons he learned on Hoeschler Drive, he then designed and built the family cabin on Round Lake in Hayward in 1976 relying on Joe’s son, Al Doucet, to make sure that things were done right.

Long before home computers became commonplace, Roy purchased one of the first personal computers available. He took numerous courses at WWTC to develop programming skills and was among the first to design and install practice management software systems in dental offices.

Medical and dental professionals have been known to make less than desirable business investment decisions. In the early 70’s Roy and friends/colleagues Bill Lippstreu, Spencer Peters, Joe Doucet, and Chuck Flume decided to develop a campground in Osseo WI.  After five years of investment it was decided they should have just bought a stove to burn the money, and they soon divested themselves of the venture.  Under new ownership, the campground is currently ranked in the top 100 in the nation.

Among the challenges that Roy faced during his lifetime was being diagnosed with retinitis pigmentosa (RP). This eye disease is characterized by night blindness and progressive tunnel vision. The VA was crucial in helping Roy to adapt and learn skills to lead an independent, active and satisfying life. Their training in orientation & mobility (white cane travel), daily living skills, and ongoing training in software & technology for the visually impaired enhanced his ability to remain involved in activities he enjoyed. In addition to the VA training he received, the most beneficial assistance came from the three guide dogs he obtained from Seeing Eye in Morristown, NJ.  Over a thirty year period, Nikki, Digby, and Koffy provided him with safe travel skills, independence and companionship.

Roy did not let his blindness prevent him from seeing many amazing places around the world. From being led by hand to the top of Ayers Rock, observing grizzly bears and mountain goats in Glacier Park, to skiing the Southern Alps in New Zealand, Roy never let his visual impairment slow him down. He loved our national parks and favored Glacier National Park, Yellowstone, and Custer State Park in South Dakota.  In his early 90s he was able to revisit these parks several times with Mom and Doug.  He remained awed by the majesty of the mountains and the wildlife in the West.  Roy enjoyed “seeing” the parks and wildlife via the descriptions provided by his travel companions.  He was one of the few people to always “see” a grizzly bear on every visit to Glacier Park.  In 2001-2006, Roy participated in the National Blinded Veterans’ T.E.E.  Tournament, a golf tournament for Blinded Veterans in Iowa City IA.  He enjoyed the camaraderie with other vets and he especially liked having a new, solid excuse for being a rotten golfer.

Roy was an active participant in Boy Scouts for much of his adult life. In the 1950’s and 1960s, as troop scoutmaster, he led the troop in hand-building canoes that they later used on Canadian canoeing trips. Even after becoming legally blind he took a group of scouts on a week-long sailing expedition in the Florida Keys, as well as helping lead the troop on another week long expedition to the Boundary Waters Canoe Area with his guide dog Nikki. Roy always enjoyed an active outdoor life and the opportunity to pass his knowledge on to the next generation.

The opportunity to run the coffee shop at the State Capital in Madison was offered to Roy in the early 1990s.  For several years he maintained an apartment near Hilldale where he stayed from Monday to Friday.  He estimated that more laws were passed by legislators in “his” coffee shop than in chambers.  He frequently traveled to Madison on Monday mornings with a legislative aide from Sparta and returned home on Friday evenings with Sen. Brian Rude.  This was an extremely interesting adventure for Roy that ended when the State closed the coffee shop wing for renovation.  He then took over management of the newsstand at the La Crosse Post Office.  Again, he enjoyed being out with people, especially the daily visits with those who picked up their mail in the lobby, including friend Sue Core Petry.

Roy had a very good singing voice and was a member of the Bishop’s Choir at the cathedral in Jefferson City MO as a young boy.  A special memory of that time was when he fainted at Mass so the priest gave him a quarter to buy a milkshake every week before services.  He loved the 1940s music, especially Frank Sinatra, Ella Fitzgerald, and Dean Martin. He particularly liked to sing along with his favorites to entertain his caregivers from Brightstar and at Hillview.

Our family would like to thank the staff from Brightstar, especially Ellen and Kelly, the staff at the Tomah VA Going Home unit, the Gundersen Hospice team, and staff in the 700 wing at Hillview (particularly Kathy Hengel R.N. and support staff Tony and Gina).  Their care and concern for Dad were unwavering and have been a source of comfort for all of us.  Roy especially appreciated the overall support and excellent veterinary care that Tom Thompson, DVM and Jean Heyt, DVM provided to Koffy, Digby and Nikki, always assuring that Roy’s “eyes” had a cold nose.

Roy was preceded in death by his parents, sister Lucille Scott (Ralph), brother, Melvin Buerhle, first wife Wanda, sons John Buehrle, Roy J III “Chip” (Linda) Buehrle, daughter Carol Ann “Corky” (Norm) Hendersin, and grandson Scott Hendersin, as well as his guide dogs Nikki and Digby.

Roy is survived by his wife, Joan; four children, Douglas (Laura) Buehrle, David Buehrle, Jason Buehrle, Joe (Sara) Buehrle; 12 grandchildren, John Henry, Michelle, Jenna, Dan, Rebekah, Matt, Emma, Serenity, Aksel, Emily, Isaac, Kara; 15 great-grandchildren, Aryanna, Brandon, Mary, Cassidy, Christian, Sasha, Dom, Beck, Sam, Ben, Luke, Anna, Eve, William, and Justin, as well as his current guide dog Koffy.

Visitation will be held Saturday, December 14, 2019 from 10 AM to the time of service at The Gathering Place, 133 Mason St. Onalaska.  The service will be at 11 AM.  A Celebration of Roy’s life will follow in the Cargill Room at The Waterfront 328 Front Street South.  The family is being assisted by Coulee Region Cremation Group.

In lieu of flowers, memorials may be directed to ‘The Seeing Eye, P.O. Box 375 Morristown, NJ 07963-0375.’ or your preferred charity.  More information at seeingeye.org.

Full obituary and condolences may be viewed at www.couleecremation.com

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12 Comments

  1. Ann Agard Berger

    Dear Joan,
    My very sincere condolences on Roy’s passing.
    The world is a bit less wonderful for the loss of such a wonderful man. May you find peace and comfort with your wonderful family and with all of the amazing memories. His was a very full life well lived.
    Love Ann

  2. Robert Olson

    What an astounding life Roy lived! I see how my life has been impacted with adventure through friendship with his sons!

    • Lisa Bentzen Meyer

      Dear Joan, I’m so sorry to hear of the passing of Roy. my thoughts and prayers to you and your family

  3. Letty Hornberg

    Hello Joan and family:
    I am so sorry to hear about the passing of Roy. Thank you for telling us a little more about his life. I loved it when you said he could always “see” a grizzly bear and how he “did not let his blindness prevent him from seeing many amazing places”. You and your family are in our thoughts and prayers.
    Sincerely, Letty

  4. Patricia (Hammes) Heim

    Dear Mrs. Buehrle,

    I’m sorry to learn of the death of Dr. Buehrle. I’m glad I was able to share a bit of his and your family’s life as a babysitter for the children. May your hearts be filled with a bounty of warm memories in the days and months ahead.

    Patricia Heim

  5. Richard Dungar

    My prayers and sympathy to Joan, Doug, Laura, and the family. I would go to the post office to get my mail. I would go to Roy’s coffee stand to buy a cup of coffee and a donut to munch on while going though my mail. I enjoy talking to Roy.

  6. David Griesel

    My condolences to the family of my childhood dentist.

    David Griesel

  7. Sue Petrie

    Dear Joan,
    Many good memories with Roy. Remembering him at the Post Office on my way to work.
    Other good times years ago with old friends.
    My sincere sympathies..
    Sue (Core) Petrie

  8. Bill Buehrle

    Dear Joan and Family, from the last Buehrle male still living in the Jefferson City, Missouri area, I want to express my sincere condolences to you. While I never met Roy, it looks like he had a full and purposeful life which is true to all of the Buehrle’s. All I would like to say to you is that “When someone you Love becomes a memory, the memory becomes a Treasure. Blessing to you and your family.

  9. Ruth Orcutt

    I am amazed that I found this obituary while searching for another and I cannot help but respond. It was 1958 when I met Roy when I was employed at Grandview Hospital and his office was next to mine. I have several fond memories of conversations with Roy and I knew then that he was a very special and fun loving man. Reading about his life is inspirational; my husband is now legally blind and knowing how Roy dealt with this impairment is very comforting. It seems that Roy has been a blessing to all who knew him; I have been living in NC for many years so didn’t continue knowing him, but now wish I had.

  10. Brian Rude

    Dear Joan and family:
    It was my pleasure to offer many rides to Roy and his canine companion while he ran the coffee shop at the State Capitol. We always talked the whole two and a half hours, and always found something interesting to visit about. I was always amazed at his energy and positive attitude. He had many challenges with his blindness, but it did not get him down and he continued to enjoy life and contribute. He lived a full life. I hope great memories of this wonderful man sustain you in the days ahead

  11. Rick and Sandra Walters

    Dear Joan,
    Please accept our deepest sympathies for the loss of Roy. I will always have fond memories of him, not only as a young patient but also as a dental colleague. I so enjoyed working with you and Roy in the State Road offices in 1967-8. And Roy was a great Scout leader, always up for adventure. I know that my friends who were a part of his group thoroughly enjoyed their activities. Roy always had a lively spirit about him, a quality to be admired.
    With fond respect from Paris,
    Rick and Sandra

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