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Jeffrey D. Stellick

March 17, 2023 | 18 comments

Jeffrey D. Stellick 38 of Madison, formerly of La Crosse, passed away March 16 with his mother by his side at Serenity House in Tomah following a long illness.  Jeff was born July 9th, 1984 in La Crosse to Susan and Gerald Stellick.

When Jeff was able to work, he was a hard worker and loved his jobs at Stella Jones, DuraTech, both in Bangor and finally his most favorite job selling shoes at Champs in Madison.  Everyone that knew Jeff knew that he had an unending love for shoes which was seen up to the end of his life.

He is survived by his mother Susan Stellick (Gus Zabel), a brother Ryan Stellick (Jessica Engfer), sons Trenton Stellick and Gavin Everson, grandmother Marjorie Stinson, along with many Aunts, Uncles, Nieces, Nephews, and Cousins.

He was preceded in death by his father Gerald Stellick, grandparents Harold (Dewey) Stinson, Bernadette Stellick and Donald Stellick.

A private family service will be held at a later date.

A special thank you to all of the wonderful and compassionate staff at the Serenity House for the exceptional care they gave Jeff. They truly allowed him to spend the last month of his life with dignity, respect and comfort. Thanks also to Jeff’s good friends Scott Wehrs, Andrew Raymer and John Smith who were there to support Jeff in his final days.

 In lieu of flowers, memorials may be directed to Our Saviors Lutheran Church West Salem, Coulee Council on Addictions, or the Serenity House Tomah WI.

He turned to Addiction to make him feel normal like everyone else.  His addiction told him, “I can make you feel alright.  I can make you feel worthy.  I can make you feel loved.  I can make you feel nothing and make you feel like everything will be OK.”

What his addiction did not tell him was…. how it would devastate his family and tear it apart, how it would take his job and leave him penniless, how it would steal his sons from his arms, how it would take his home, how it would take his humor and dignity, how it would take his relationships and how it would Take and Take and Take until it Took his life.

May God be with all those suffering from addictions and to all of those families suffering along with them.

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18 Comments

  1. Linda Marshall

    Oh, Sue, my heart breaks for you and your family. May Jeff now find peace and true happiness. Addiction stole our beautiful sons from us and their true lives from them. May you find comfort in the wonderful memories and the love which was always there. Again, I am so very sorry for the loss of your beloved child.

    • Sue Stellick

      Thank you so much Linda you know well the pain of losing a child to addiction and the pain throughout the years. I am grateful that I got to spend the last 5 weeks of his life with him. Thanks for your message.

      • Linda Marshall

        We were given the gift of knowing how much our son’s loved us but more importantly they knew they were loved and always had been.

  2. Andrew Raymer

    He will be missed by all of us that truly knew the person that Jeff could be. I am proud to have called him a friend and that I could be there for him when he struggled, as he did for me.
    You are in a place now where there is no more worry or struggle. Rest easy my friend, until we meet again someday.

  3. Dan and Julie Horstman

    Sue,
    We are so sorry. We will keep you and your family in our thoughts and prayers.

    • Sue Stellick

      Thank you so much. Your thoughtfulness and prayers are truly appreciated.

  4. Barb Hammond

    Sue, So sorry to hear of your loss! Sending warm thoughts and prayers your way. ❤️??? Barb Hammond

    • Sue Stellick

      Thank you so much for your thoughts and prayers. Yes his struggles are over and he can be at peace.

  5. Patti Navrestad

    Sue Sorry to hear of Jeff’s passing. I put him out to a lot of jobs through Labor Ready he was a true Stella Jones worker. Patti Navrestad

    • Sue Stellick

      Thanks for all you did for Jeff. He spoke of you often.

  6. Fran & Sue Formanek

    Hello Sue, Ryan and family, Sue and I wish to convey our deepest sympathy on the death of Jeff. His struggles are over and now he has peace. We will keep you in our thoughts and prayers.

  7. Sue Stellick

    Thank you so much for your thoughts and prayers. Yes his struggles are over and he can be at peace.

  8. Kathy McGettigan

    Sue. So sorry for your loss. May he be in peace. May special memories make this time easier. Glad you were able to be with him these last few weeks Hugs and prayers

    • Sue Stellick

      Thanks for your hugs and prayers. Yes I feel fortunate to have spent his last five weeks with him. Knowing that he is no longer suffering and is in a better place gives us peace.

  9. David Otto

    I grew up playing little league baseball with Jeff it had been few years sense we talked what great friend you will truly be missed bud my prayers to your family

    • Sue Stellick

      Thanks for your thoughts and prayers. Yes the days and memories of little league ball are wonderful times to be cherished.

  10. Diane Cooley

    Sue, So sorry to hear about Jeffrey! My prayers and thoughts are with you, Gus and Ryan. May God hold him gently in his arms.

    • Sue Stellick

      Thanks Diane. His life in heaven will be so much better than his life here on earth. We pray he is no longer suffering and is at peace.

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